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Empowering neurodivergent people through understanding and conversation

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Empowering neurodivergent people through understanding and conversation

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ABA and Company – Traumatic Therapies

One of the greatest concerns to adults within the autistic community – both autistic people, and parents who have experience and have seen the consequences – is how consistently the medical / health system promotes therapies for autistic children such as Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA). And while many practitioners will claim there are crucial and marked differences, many other therapies follow a similar approach, including:  What Are They? These therapies all tend to engage a[…]

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Not Refusing: School Can’t

School Can’t is still generally known as School Refusal in political, medical, and educational circles, unfortunately. However the understanding is that children who experience this are not refusing to go to school, or refusing to try. They simply can’t. Your child can’t do it easily. They can’t even try without immense effort. And often they can’t go at all. What is School Can’t? School refusal is a type of school attendance problem characterised by a[…]

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Opening Christmas Gifts

When people speak of the true spirit of generosity, they talk about selflessness and the act of giving without expecting anything in return. That’s the moral high ground, right? It’s what we teach our kids. It’s what we praise and aspire to. So why is it that so many adults harshly judge children who open gifts at Christmas or on birthdays, and don’t respond in a particular way? Why are neurodivergent kids with traits such[…]

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Christmas Lunch and The “Fussy Eater”

There are two important things to remember when it comes to Christmas lunch and neurodivergent kids. Firstly, it is a social construct, not a necessity. Secondly, you and your neurodivergent child do not owe conformity to anyone. Not even the people you love most. In fact, especially not the people you love most. If your child finds eating Christmas lunch at a family gathering difficult, that is okay. If this situation remains difficult, that is[…]

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A Sense of Security: the Magic Key

Developing a sense of security can prevent or repair so much of what people feel is difficult about neurodivergence. There are a number of traits of neurodivergencies that are tough – for the neurodivergent person, and sometimes for the people around them too. But so many of the trickier aspects of many neurodivergences are not traits of the neurotype itself, but an expression of distress. We have talked about this so many times in articles[…]

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Just Because You Used To: Change is Okay

I was recently talking to a parent whose child was facing a dilemma. This ND kiddo had developed some anxieties around going to school. It didn’t look like the usual “School Can’t” (which obviously doesn’t necessarily mean it isn’t!), as they were happy getting ready for school, and travelling to school. It was more that they had started insisting that their parent stay until the bell went and then walk them to class, after quite[…]

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Big Feelings: Assisting with Distress

Autistic people frequently suffer from ongoing stresses, like being misunderstood, feeling unheard, experiencing RSD, having schema disrupted, etc. Most neurodivergent people experience many of these, even if allistic, due to the pressure placed upon them by neuronormative societal expectations. While this can result in meltdowns, or challenging behaviour, another demonstration of this can be straightforward distress. What is Distress? Distress is extreme sadness, anxiety, or pain, and can present in a number of ways. “Distressed[…]

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Not Everything is a Lesson (Be Like Elsa: Let it Go)

A teachable moment is the time at which learning a specific idea is at its easiest. Unfortunately in pop psychology has twisted this to become something along the lines of “I can see the issue presenting itself, so let’s use this opportunity to turn it into a lesson.” And often that when the teachable moment appears, it must be addressed immediately. Sometimes this is fantastic, because it gives a tangible, applicable, relevant context.  However there[…]

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Starting School: Exposing Household Differences

Starting “big school” is a momentous occasion. For many kids it’s a significant step that comes with a number of hurdles. For neurodivergent kids, these hurdles can be larger or more numerous. And, it is becoming increasingly apparent to me, for kids from neurodivergent households (whether they’re ND or NT), it can be quite a leap. Some children will struggle emotionally at school. Others will be “fine” at school and emotional at home. Others will[…]

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Setting the Tone

Sometimes dysregulation can feel like it has simply set in. There can be phases where every day feels harder and more out of your control. While there can be other factors that genuinely are beyond your control, one common issue is our own negative feelings as parents. Neurodivergent people have the reputation of lacking empathy, however the vast majority are quite the opposite. Many are emotional sponges, whether they want to be or not! Setting[…]

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